Are beautiful women treated more poorly by men?

I am considering writing a paper on the subject, so I thought I’d come here for opinion.

My friend Lily is beautiful. I mean stunning. I was at the bank with her one day, and the female teller stopped to tell her how beautiful she is. This kind of thing happens constantly. She is also intelligent, kind, owns her own home, and puts other people first.

She is OBSESSED with this man from her past. She met him when she was 20. He was 31. She threw herself at this man, and no one understood why. He was fat and downright grouchy. He was our boss, and she was the only one who liked him. He rejected her advances because he said she still lived at home, and he wasn’t going to get involved with a "little girl". Even though he said that, he took her out every night. He just refused to touch her. After 2 years of this nonsense, she got a boyfriend. It didn’t last.

She never stopped thinking about our old boss. She hadn’t seen him in about 8 years, but she was always googling him to see what he may be up to. This past January, one of our mutual friends ran into him. He immediately asked about Lily. He was like a puppy at Chuck Wagon time as he listened to what the mutual friend had to say. He got her number and called her.

She was thrilled. He was calling her constantly. Sometimes he’d call 18 times in a day. She told me she’d be dreaming about him, and he’d call her in the morning, and she was woken up by the sound of his voice.

This is where it gets weird. They were having amazing phone conversations. They made plans to get together. She wound up seeing him the day before on a fluke, It was a very quick meeting. He mentioned that she looked exactly the same. He was fatter and losing his hair. She’s 31 now, he’s 42. He canceled their date the next day. He claimed that he had a sick parent. He didn’t reschedule either. YET, he has continued to call her even more. She overheard him tell a friend that he is dating her. She didn’t question it, because she NEVER questions him. She tries to keep it light and cheerful.

He asked her to go on an errand with him. He badgered her for 2 days. When the day came, he tried to give her an out, but she didn’t take it. When the errand was over, she said he couldn’t get away from her fast enough. She was getting in her car, but he wanted to hug her. It was the second time in her life that he had touched her. TWICE in 10 years. He called her twice that night. THEN he asked her to go to Miami Beach with him on business.- In his hotel room. He asked for days and finally she agreed. NOW he is telling her it may not happen. When she acted like she didn’t care, he changed it and told her it probably will happen.

She is a wreck today, because today is the first time in 3 months that he hasn’t called her. She wants this man. Why? I don’t know.

Why is he treating her like crap? This woman has it all over him. No one understands it. He won’t seem to ask her out, but he HAS to talk to her. If he calls and she doesn’t answer, he flips out. I’ve seen it. He’ll call her work looking for her. Last week, she had 5 missed calls on her cell, 3 text messages, and 2 memos at work from him- in a span of 10 minutes.

He is 100% single. We know this for sure.

Also, this isn’t the first man who has treated her poorly. This man is just the only one she has actually cared for in a major way. All but 1 have treated her like garbage. I have never in my life seen a woman with such bad luck with men. She is SO pretty, and she goes out with these ugly men who make her feel worthless. She also says she has never been with a man she has been attracted to. The ones she is attracted to reject her, I’ve also never seen a woman rejected as often as she has been rejected. One man dated her for 2 months last year, was obsessed with her, then dumped her after she slept with him because he thought her skin was too pale. They dump her for stupid reasons like that.

Women with low self esteem are treated poorly by men (and everyone else).

It sounds like she isn’t very confident in herself and a lot of times that shows and gives people the wrong idea. Looks aren’t everything. If you don’t have a good personality to go along with it, relationships aren’t going to last that long. She needs to spend time learning how to love and appreciate herself before she tries to get into any more relationships. She needs to drop that jerk who is stringing her along and learn how to enjoy single life for a while. Good luck to her. I hope she realizes her self worth.